Friendship differs from romantic
love in that desire is not a motivating factor. Three thousand years ago,
it was written in the “I Ching”: “Only when relationships are based
on what is right, on steadfastness, can they triumph over everything. If a
connection is only based on common interest, the closest bond will
end when the shared interest fades.”
is willingness, whether in platonic or romantic relationships: willingness
to help, to support, to sympathize, to respect, to honor the validity of
the friend’s beliefs and concerns. It is supremely unselfish.
the 11th house governs friendship. Compatibility is often found with
favorable connections to one’s Moon or Venus placement, irrelevant of
the Sun signs. Elements of fire (Aries, Leo and Sagittarius) and air
(Gemini, Libra and Aquarius) tend to be compatible, and elements of earth
(Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn) harmonize with water signs (Cancer, Scorpio
too much of the same element can overload the connection. An overemphasis
on earth may yield a cold, materialistic relationship; on fire, too hot an
much air may result in solely cerebral gymnastics, devoid of caring, and
too much water may drown friends in psychological depth, with no
best friends reflect our own, highest qualities. Therefore, to attract the
best friends, you must become the best you can be.
yourself by committing to a value system, in either a spiritual or
philosophical path, that emphasizes honor and purity of intention. Your
birth chart will provide clear insight as to your potential and areas that
is a mistake to seek answers based on just the Sun sign, whether in
looking for forecasts or superficial analysis of one’s own potential.
as responsible medicine is practiced with complex diagnostic procedures
prior to treatment, likewise there must be responsible, thorough analysis
of the whole birth chart to effectively solve inner problems and empower
Oahu Island News Contributing Editor Jade Emory holds degrees in psychology and education, has taught in American and Canadian universities and has been a counselor since 1970. She may be reached at 429-2411.