Parenting is reputed to be the
hardest job on Earth. Often, parents try to make their children over in
thier own images, which rarely works, since their offspring have their own
minds, their unique astrological “fingerprints.”
great Lebanese poet, Kahlil Gibran, wrote in “The Prophet,” “Your
children are not your children. …They come through you, not from you.
…You may give them your love, but not your thoughts. You may strive to
be like them, but seek not to make them like you.”
for generations, parents continued to try to clone their children into
themselves, as if their offspring were satellites revolving around the
well-intentioned egocentricity of the adult. Astrology shows how parents
can give the best of themselves to help their children become the best of
who they really are. But it requires much more than a superficial
knowledge of the Sun signs of both parties.
valuable key is to examine and resolve one’s own, unconscious reasons for
guiding one’s children in a certain direction. If a parent regards the
child as a puppet to serve the parent’s ego’s need for social
recognition or economic security, by pressuring the child to participate
in the adult’s pyramid scheme, then even high-heeled, patent-leather
stilettos and a whip will not elicit the desired result. The more a parent
can be transpersonal, the more likely the parent will be able to cultivate the
highest potential of the child.
thousand years ago, it was written in the Chinese oracle “I Ching,”
“If we nourish the child, we lose the adult. If we nourish the adult, we
lose the child.” So teaching offspring to be competent and responsible
at every age will elicit maturity, even in a young child; and
indulging the baby in a grown child (“spoiling”) will keep the adult
birth chart shows a mosaic of options and updating the birth chart yearly
indicates what the native is ready to develop now, whether the native is a
parent or a child. Updates consist of both “progressions” and
“transits.” The progressed Sun (one’s will) moves 1 degree a year,
but the progressed Moon (emotional needs) moves 1 degree a month, changing
signs entirely every 2-1/2 years. Transits are what is happening today, or
on a special day, such as a birthday, known as a “solar return,”
and can be used to predict development in the forthcoming year.
Oahu Island News Contributing Editor Jade Emory holds degrees in psychology and education, has taught in American and Canadian universities and has been a counselor since 1970. She may be reached at 429-2411.