I will attempt to
provide a wikiwiki outline/overview of the entire book. This will include
an expanded description of the book’s table of contents, a summary of
its nine chapter headings and key topics, and some brief elaboration on
the basic themes and subheadings. So here goes:
Chapter 1: Introduction. It focuses
on the depressing perspective of my twenty-year career as a battle-weary
divorce lawyer and it argues for the need for “Divorce with Decency.”
Chapter 2: Basic Background - Where
has the “All American” Family Gone?
This chapter describes the
spiraling phenomenon of divorce in America and cites some scary and
saddening statistics regarding this epidemic.
3: The Dynamics of Divorce. Outlines the key causal factors of divorce,
describes the common phases of divorce, analyzes the psychological fallout
which can result, and dissects the actual uncoupling process when couples
4: Kids in Crisis. This chapter
discusses the children of divorce and how they are affected by their
parents’ split. It studies the different impacts of divorce on children
of different sexes, ages or stages of development.
5: Into the Courtroom. Here I
describe how actual court proceedings operate and give some hot tips on
how to process your divorce economically and efficiently. These include
suggestions on attorney selection criteria and on Mediation and
Alternative Dispute Resolution.
Chapter 6: The Legal Issues. This chapter provides a comprehensive analysis of the substantive legal elements
of divorce law. These include: how marital property is divided, alimony,
custody, child support, spouse abuse, palimony, paternity, etc.
7: Case Histories, Anecdotes, War Stories. Included here are some of our
firm’s true life divorce lawyering dramas.
8: Life After Divorce. This
contains sections on the single parent, new relationships, remarriage,
step-families and relations between former spouses.
9: Conclusions, Predictions and Prognostications. In this final chapter I
attempt to “tie it all together” with a discussion of the societal
impacts and long term implications of divorce in America.
publication in 1998, Divorce with
Decency went on to win the Hawaii Book Publisher’s Annual Ka
Palapala Po’okela Award of Merit for, “Excellence in Guide and
Reference Books”. You can get a good
overview of the book by visiting the website www.divorcewithdecency.com.
I hope that a reading of these excerpts will inspire you to get and read
the entire book. And, if you do wind up buying my book, I would love
nothing better than to have the opportunity to meet with you personally -
both to hear your comments and also to autograph your copy.