you didn’t desire your romantic partner, would you tolerate his
treatment of you? Often people confuse desire with love, cultivating lack
of self-love. If that attractive mate is emotionally inaccessible or
abusive through disrespectful actions or inaction, then the choice is
between self-perpetuation and self-destruction.
5th house of the birth chart rules both romance and ego development.
Without a strong sense of self, one has no foundation from which
experience love. The 7th house of partnership draws us to attributes in
others which mirror potentials within ourselves. One house may encompass
from one to three signs, adding to the complexity of relationship
draws one to express one’s own playful creativity, initiative, ambition,
youthfulness and leadership.
focuses on physical attraction and financial solvency, society’s vain
priorities. But inwardly, Taurus needs tender caring, trustworthy inner
values and a celebration of the senses.
values communication, objectivity, intellectual or academic growth. It may
avoid emotional intimacy and be reticent to commit unless a partnership
offers adequate “space.”
not only wants emotional intimacy, it has to beware of emotional
dependency, expecting equivalent returned support, reducing the connection
to a surrogate parent-child dynamic.
may indulge ego’s need to impress others with its “trophy” mate or
seek a satellite to revolve around itself. It should seek genuine love
instead of a selfish caricature.
may choose a mate who withholds or withdraws love, and should seek someone
who loves unconditionally like its pet.
rarely wants solitude, but without equality or ethics will leave a
partnership. Gentle and refined, it thrives on fairness and cooperation.
needs sexual intimacy and financial sharing. Control issues are best
resolved by sharing power rather than competing for it.
wants a deeply spiritual or philosophical mate, compatible with its own
belief system. A lover of travel and athletics, it may enjoy autonomy as
much as togetherness.
wants a very socially acceptable partner, as it values the approval of
authority figures. Sometimes the partner is significantly older or
seeks a best friend or a mate from a different culture, in order to escape
perceived lower attributes from its own ethnicity. Highly charitable, it
seeks an unselfish partner.
seeks an empathetic, sensitive partner but if that partner uses drugs or
alcohol, one may end up the savior and victim at the same time.
Jade Emory holds degrees in
psychology and education, has taught at American and Canadian colleges and
has been a counselor since 1970. She may be reached at 429-2411.