gnawing on sugarcane for dessert. If
that’s not “tough,” I don’t know what is!
My grandpa may not be the most educated man, but he’s witty and
has a heart of gold. Over the years I’ve spared myself a lot of
tears by learning from his actions, lessons and stories.
lessons (in my words):
• Value family first.
• Don’t yell and don’t nag.
• Sometimes it’s OK (and even good) just to keep your mouth
• Throw right versus wrong out the window to maintain peace in
• Save your money – the one who spends it all has nothing left
but a bunch of debt and a lot of stuff!
• Work hard – even if you’ve got personal problems, never let
people at work know.
• Never stay home from work because you are depressed or sad.
• Enjoy good food.
• The best meals are those made with love and shared with those we
love, even when using paper napkins.
• Appreciate other people’s generosity.
• Give just for the sake of giving.
• Look at the big picture – 10, 20, 30 years from now, who do we
want by our side?
• Don’t fight over small stuff.
• When you get older, you spend a lot of time with your spouse, so
you better like them (at least some of the time).
• It’s OK to argue, but never say mean things – you can’t
take those words back.
• Family is the key to happiness.
• Everyone likes cake and presents, even if they say they don’t.
• No one is entitled to anything – expect to work for what you
• Don’t try to control other people.
• Never say anything bad about
other people; it will get back to them.
• Remember to be grateful for all the wonderful gifts in our
• Look at the good in people – let their faults slide.
• Don’t take everything so seriously.
• Laugh a little – or a lot!
• Be early – it avoids stress.
• Apologize when you are wrong.
• Be honest and have your own set of standards. Others will
respect you, and more importantly – you will respect yourself.
• Make sure to get enough sleep, food and rest – your brain
• Every day is a good day.
Malisa Uchida is the co-host of “Saturday nights with
Steve Bohlen and Malisa Uchida” on KHVH 830am - Saturday from 6pm
to 9pm. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.