By Jade Emory
Oahu Island News

Get over yourself!” Imagine if we could all figure out when we are dissolved in ourselves, our ego, so that we could learn how to get over ourselves. Here are some helpful hints:

If we feel pride or shame, desire or aversion, hate or anger, resentment or fear, it is all ego. If we hold ourselves above or below anyone else, it is ego, regardless of why. If we polarize against others, and it is not about a righteous cause, it is ego. Even causes that we may think are righteous, but which really are about domination and submission, these too can be ego.

These are the inner questions people need to ask themselves if their personal, social or political struggles perpetuate the illusion of separateness from the rest of humankind, because divisiveness and cupidity (selfish attachment to one’s goals) are ego.

The self must be known, loved and then forgotten. It takes uncompromising integrity to really know oneself, without one’s perception being deluded by the enabling filters of subjective gratification. Then it takes Christlike compassion to unconditionally love oneself and others at every stage of development, not just when we reach what we think is enlightenment. This does not preclude the responsibility of correcting one’s lower proclivities, however. But the most difficult step is the 3rd step, getting over oneself, or forgetting ourselves so that Higher Power can work through us. I call it “putting on our angel wings”.

Astrology offers insight as to how we can get over ourselves:

ARIES can be the candle flame that lights the light of others.

TAURUS can be the steady proverbial Rock of Gibralter when adjustment overwhelms others.

GEMINI can easily let go of what is obsolete and flow with change.

CANCER can be the nurturer to children other than its own.

LEO can strengthen other people’s self-esteem instead of glorifying itself.

VIRGO can help heal through its medical and dietary knowlege.

LIBRA can be the objective peacemaker and mediator helping resolve the conflicts of others.

SCORPIO can be the surgeon getting rid of the “cancers” in our character.

SAGITTARIUS turns to the Creator in humility, praying for guidance.

CAPRICORN takes responsibility for correcting its own transgressions.

AQUARIUS knows in advance that it is only one droplet in the ocean of humanity.

PISCES has the compassion to express mercy toward all.

Jade Emory holds degrees in psychology and education, has taught in American and Canadian universities and has been a counselor since 1970. She may be reached at (808) 429-2411. email: Website: